Getting Standards and Principals

There is nothing wrong with being a follower. In fact, falcons have survived for decades both in the wild, and under someone else’s care. But no matter where they are, or how they live, they are still the powerful hunters that grace the sky with their presence. In fact, this strength of character is what allows them to survive as falcons, instead of pets or food like so many other animals coexisting with humans today.

We Black Falcons are always interacting with other human beings. So sooner or later, you will learn that, in any social interaction, the stronger mental frame will always absorb the weaker mental frame. So you always have to uphold your value in any social interaction. Otherwise, others will unconsciously perceive you as being weak, and can even start alienating you from your own social circle.
There are two basic ways to build your presence and value

Setting Standards for Yourself

All of us were taught since a very young age that in order to get others to like us, we have to learn to compromise when dealing with others. This is a mistake. It’s not that you can’t make some sacrifices when dealing with others. But if you compromise yourself, you let others dictate who you are, and that, in itself, is a sign of weakness.

People want to respect you, but you must first show that you respect yourself. So the first thing you need to do is set standards. Voice your opinions, and let others know what you like, or don’t like. If someone is being rude to you, or crosses a line in their interaction with you, let them know that their behavior is unacceptable. If you always uphold these standards, others will come to respect it, and those who don’t shouldn’t be around you anyways.

Living with Principals

People will generally respect your standards. But once in a while, they will challenge it just to see how strong they are. The weaker your standards are, and the more you practice double standards, letting a few individuals get away with violating your standards, the more others will challenge it. So you must keep strengthening your standards so that others will follow them.

The way to strengthen your standards is by making sure that who you are is congruent with these standards. To do that, you must establish certain principals about how to conduct yourself, and live according to those principals. You will find that the more you live according to your principals, the less people will challenge your standards.

But more importantly, you must always put yourself out there. Challenge your own standards and values. In the end, this is the best way to of gaining personal power.

Understanding Crowd Dynamics

As Black Falcons, one of the things you always have to do is put yourself out there, and build a strong social circle that will help you pursue your ambitions. But here’s the catch: you must be able to hold a crowd. Otherwise, even if you can get a large social circle around you, it will slowly diminish until it eventually disappears.

So how do you hold a crowd? Believe it or not, it is actually a lot simpler than it sounds. Here are the reasons why people would join a social circle:

They Want to Feel Safe

When a person is alone in the world, the world often looks like a dangerous place. This is because deep down, people feel week when they’re along by themselves. So they would want to align themselves with a crowd of people. This way, they would feel more at ease with themselves.

They Want to Feel Important

Gangs, cults, and terrorist organizations have always found ways of gathering huge followings, even though a lot of their followers knew the consequences of aligning themselves with these organizations. But they still join the organizations, and would even convince themselves that they have made the right choice. This is because they want to feel important, and by joining these organizations, they feel that they are taking part in something bigger than they are.

They are Seeking Love and Friendship

All people, even us Black Falcons, seek connection with other human beings. So it’s no surprise that people would enter into social circles because they are looking for love and connection from others. The more a group makes them feel like they belong there, the more likely they would stay within a group.

The Group can Help Them Achieve Their Goals

We Black Falcons are always seeking to expand our social network to help us achieve their goals, so it’s no surprise that others are doing the same. People will join a group or organization if they feel that it can help them achieve their goals. This is, however, the least effective way to build your social network. Unless your group also offer other values, people would simply take what they want, and leave.

They Like to Feel That They’ve Accomplished Something

All of us have the aspirations to achieve something with our lives. That’s why people would join charity organizations, and give their time without pay. An example of this is the Red Cross, which was founded in 1863 and is still a powerful organization even to this date. People are more likely going to join, and stay in an organization with a strong mission statement, and include everyone in an effort to achieve a common goal.

They Want to Have Fun

Finally, people want to be entertained. They are drawn to exciting group dynamics, and want to have a fun time when they’re out and about. It goes without saying that the more fun people have with a group, the more likely they will come back.

Start building your social circle by first joining some successful organizations, and learn how the social dynamics work there. Once you are familiar with interacting with a crowd, building your own circle will come naturally.